REASONS I'M STILL CRYING ABOUT A STORY FROM "ONE MORE THING"
@bjnovak wrote a book that I thought would be hysterically funny. Instead it made me think and question my entire relationship with my grandmother.
- •I'm really close to my grandma and think she's the coolest. My proudest moments in life have been when she's asked me for advice. ME! A person who is 58 years older than me and provided 1/4 of my DNA wants my input on somethingIt's usually what she should she watch on Netflix and can I just add them to her queue for her, but still
- •I took the book out from the Delray Beach library while I was visiting my grandparents in January
- •I read the story “No One Goes to Heaven to See Dan Fogelberg" and it FUCKED ME UP
- •Five months later, it inspired me to have a great discussion with my grandma about our shared lack of belief in an after life
- •Finally I had the courage to bring up the story and its implications. I started explaining the premise and how the grandma canceled on the kid once and she finished it for me: "Oh, she just wanted to hang with her friends because she was young again and she'd rather be with them?"
- •And she just moved on to picking out a ripe watermelon or something, like she hadn't just shattered my whole worldOh yeah, should have mentioned this exchange took place in a grocery store
- •The line about wanting to do something other than dinners at Grandma's haunts me. I pride myself on how obsessed with me my family is. And I know they probably wouldn't be if they hadn't created me, but I hadn't really thought about how they wouldn't be if they weren't old. That maybe they'd be too cool for family stuff, even though I'm not
- •So thanks, @bjnovak, for writing a story that really made me think and is still making me think 10 months later. And thanks for messing with my mind a bit. I think that's healthy to do every once in a while
- •I really wanted to write this as a letter to @bjnovak but this is 2015 and I couldn't find an address so please read thisAnd if for some reason you're okay with me sending you a long, handwritten letter with wax seal on it (from Barnes & Noble, but whatever, it's still cool), as I have been known to do, let me know how I could make that happen
- •Also I finished @mindy's new book today and I'm pissed that she brags about getting to talk to her favorite author all the time, so I gained the confidence to post this instead of being stuck wishing like some old Holden Caulfield before the days of the List AppOne day I'll write a list about the ways that Why Not Me? and Is Everybody Hanging Out Without Me? fucked me up, and one line will be about the fact that I still think about that joke about how Nguyen & Ari met in SAT class and how their story is much more relatable than Jack & Diane's way too often to be psychologically normal