LESSONS FROM MY GRANDMOTHER

Sometimes passed down through my mother.
  1. When all else fails, lower your standards.
    This may sound pessimistic, but it's actually great advice about giving yourself a break.
  2. Start with the things on your to do list that you most want to do (or least want not to do).
    By the time you get around to the others, you may feel like doing them. At least the list will be shorter.
  3. Unmold jello by soaking the mold in warm water.
    It's not really a holiday meal if it doesn't involve an elaborate jello mold that no one really wants to eat.
  4. Lead with kindness. Sometimes a simple act of kindness or a kind word can make someone's day. You may never know it did.
    This can be exhausting.
  5. And when someone is being rude, kill them with kindness.
    Being rude in response to rudeness is rarely helpful.
  6. Relatedly: Always be friendly and polite to waiters/baristas/sandwhich artists/etc.
  7. Pick your battles.
  8. Shop for discounts and buy in bulk.
    This goes for everything. My grandmother currently buys her clothes at a store that has what seems like a perpetual "buy one blouse get the second for 2 cents" sales.