1. Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.-pema chödrön
  2. And yet while heartbreak has this immense spiritual value we still treat it like a problem to be solved rather than like the psychoemotional growth-spurt that it is.-Maria popova
  3. And yet the redemption of this perennial dissatisfaction, Browne argues, is that by so intensely throwing ourselves into a love that can never be fully requited, we master the difficult art of unselfish love — a love we can then direct at anyone, free of expectation of return.
    Browne puts it simply: He that can love his friend with this noble ardor will, in a competent degree, affect all.-Maria popova
  4. When we seek for another to be our everything, he suggests, we doom ourselves to continual despair and disappointment, because the most anyone can ever give us is still less-than-everything, which to the heart that longs for everything — for a complete merging of natures — feels like a sorrowing incompleteness next to nothing. He writes: I love
    my friend before myself, and yet methinks I do not love him enough: some few months hence my multiplied affection will make me believe I have not loved him at all. When I am [apart] from him, I am dead till I be with him; when I am with him, I am not satisfied but would still be nearer him. United souls are not satisfied with embraces, but desire to be truly each other; which being impossible, their desires are infinite, and must proceed without a possibility of satisfaction.-Thomas Browne
  5. One soul in two bodies. For though indeed they be really divided, yet are they so united, as they seem but one, and make rather a duality in two distinct souls. There are wonders in true affection; it is a body of enigmas, mysteries, and riddles, wherein two so become one, as they both become two.-sir Thomas Browne