I NEED ADVICE

  1. My parents adopted a beautiful, sweet, wonderful cat in 2002.
  2. I live around the corner from them, and my daughter (age 5) spends lots of time with them. She is extremely attached to this cat, who is now dying.
    I just came back from saying goodbye to her. I'm so much sadder than I thought I would be. But I'm an adult and I will be fine.
  3. My question is, how do I help my daughter with the first real loss she will have in her life?
  4. Any advice on grieving the loss of a pet with young children?
  5. I'm trying to remember what my parents said to me when the horse I liked to ride died
    I think they were just honest that she had died, and then they comforted me when I was sad. I was sad for a few days after that and then I began to feel better. I was about 7 or 8 when this happened. Basically, I would just be honest, and then comfort her, because she probably will be sad. Best of luck and I'm so sorry ❤️❤️❤️❤️
    Suggested by   @lexie_elyse
  6. The truth, with time for ceremony and grieving, and the base philosophy that while our (and our pets) bodies cease to be, those who die live on in the memories of we who loved them.
    Ritual and ceremony I think are important for children especially, even if it is just a five minute burial (real or metaphorical) where everyone shares their favorite memory of the cat and everyone holds hands and cries.
    Suggested by   @andersun
  7. I think the best things to remember are to be honest (gently) about what's happening, be present for her grief, and to not hide your *own* grief or sadness from your child. Make it clear that you are open to talking about her feelings, whatever they may be...but also provide an opportunity for closure. Make a memory book, have a tiny ceremony, etc.
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ xoxoxo to you @DG
    Suggested by   @alligeeshow