In my younger days I used to express myself at work in ways we will call "less than productive". Here are a few things I've learned.
  1. Reflection is more important than speed when responding to an email in a stressful situation.
  2. When in doubt, pick up the phone. Or better yet get face-to-face.
  3. Where's the pattern of behavior. Be honest. Is it you?
  4. Things are always clearer in the morning. Sleep on it.