1. Does it make me happy?
    And isn't destructive to me/others.
  2. Is it helpful to say?
  3. This has nothing to do with you
    Unless someone explicitly tells you that whatever she/he is doing is caused by you, it's not your fault
  4. If you want to do it, do it
    (See rule #1)
  5. If you don't want to do it, don't do it
  6. Never apologize for being yourself
  7. Never apologize for your feelings
    You can apologize for what you do with those feelings
  8. "Good for you, not for me"
    Amy Poehler quote, meaning I'm glad that makes you happy, even if it's not something I would choose for myself