Defensive reactions by my husband, to being called out for something
Wolf-whistling me while I get dressed. I don't like the feeling of being objectified, even by my husband.
- •Saying that I'm condescending
- •Saying that he's not allowed to express himself"I guess I'll just suppress every instinct I have"
- •Saying he will have to find a way to not be sexually attracted to me"I'll just desensitize myself to having any arousal from looking at your body"
- •Saying he's going to start keeping track of every time I say or do something that he doesn't like
- •Saying he's worthless"I can't do anything right"
- •Saying he's powerless"I have no control over anything in my life"
- •Saying he never gets to express his feelings, and that I don't give a shit how he feels."Why don't you ask me how I feel once in awhile?" Making it about him
- •Pointing out that he's not a stranger on the street and it's not the same. His intention is not the same.This is the one argument that almost holds some water. But it doesn't matter if I don't like it anyway. It's my feeling. Intellectually I can appreciate this argument and respect women that enjoy it but my gut tells me the behavior just perpetuates the culture of demeaning women. I don't want it out on the street or at home. It's an unpleasant reminder.
- •Saying feminaziHe used the word