What I Know About Grief

  1. Grief is not absence of love, but too much love
  2. Grief is selfish. It doesn't leave room for anyone other than the person grieving
  3. I hate it
  4. It makes you more compassionate and gentle
  5. It never leaves you. It only changes
  6. It makes you full and completely empty at the same time. Both is terrifying
  7. It splits the world in two; a before and an after
  8. You can't survive it alone even though you are fundamentally alone in your grief
  9. There is no process, five steps, or whatever. There is only messiness
  10. What brought you into this mess was love and it is what will save you