10 BITS OF ADVICE TO NEWLYWEDS

  1. 10.  DON'T KEEP SCORE Trust that your partner is doing their best at all times.
  2. 9. ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED and anticipate what is needed. Don't expect it, but always offer the unexpected.
  3. 8. PROTECT AND DEFEND You can disagree in private.
  4. 7. SAY IT NICELY and don't nag. If you can't be loving, shut up.
  5. 6. SPEND TIME AND MONEY TOGETHER Make lists and plans together of all the things you like, need, want and dream about, and do those things together.
  6. 5.  MANAGE CONFLICT AND DON'T SPEAK IN ANGER Most disagreements are so trivial they can be decided by the flip of a coin, and the subject of the disagreement will be forgotten in a day or a week.  If you must raise conflict, be selective.
  7. 4. GIVE EACH OTHER ROOM Be a whole person, have independent interests, don't stalk your spouse.  You can't see yourself in a mirror if you lean against it.
  8. 3. LEARN THE ART OF AN APOLOGY. Accept blame.
  9. 2. FORGIVE
  10. 1. TELL THE TRUTH