autocorrected to "queer mess"
- •so a few months ago my old roommate, who is also my slightly younger friend, started dating a guy
- •she texted me, "am I still queer even though I'm in a straight relationship? my friend told me I'm not."
- •& I keep thinking about this moment & about all the moments in my life where I ignored or buried or hid my own queerness because it is easier to just be straight
- •& about all the moments now that I am in a queer relationship that I have been called a lesbian & let it go because it is easier
- •the grey area is not an easy place
- •no one wants to occupy it because it feels so small & unwanted
- •tbh most of the negative reactions I've gotten to my queerness / bisexuality have come from lesbians (and some gay men, although their reaction was more directed towards bi men, but still, just as disturbing)
- •the stereotypes are endless-- we are pretending for male attention, we are hiding from our true (gay) selves, we cheat all the time, we are sex crazed, we are pillow princesses, etc etc
- •let's not even talk about the lack of representation in the media ((separate list maybe))
- •but the point is this: you are allowed to be what you are
- •& it doesn't matter who you are currently dating
- •or what other people have to say about it
- •sexuality is a spectrum
- •& you have to figure out what fits you & sometimes that's a process & that's okay & beautiful & fun
- •& I love you