RESOURCES FOR SURVIVING HEARTBREAK (OR OTHER LOSS/CRISIS)
I recently went through a devastating breakup that turned my life upside down. These are the things I read that gave me some relief on some very dark days.
- •When Things Fall Apart by Pema ChodronPema is the sweetest little Buddhist nun with the wisest words. I've read all her books and she repeats herself a lot, but that helps it sink in.
- •The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice MillerI resisted reading this for a long time because of the title, but then I learned it's about very sensitive children who become emotional caregivers to their parents at an early age, and then internalize (and recreate) this dynamic forever. This book has completely changed my perception of myself and my relationships. I think everyone should read it, especially creative types, who tend to have been the most sensitive of children.
- •Tara Brach podcastI love Tara. She is the Terry Gross of the mindfulness world. Her podcast is such a gentle intro to elements of mindfulness; like breaking old patterns, developing conscious relationships, and opening your heart. I have difficulty meditating but listening to one of her podcasts on a walk or drive has a similar effect (I think).
- •Letters to a Young Poet by RilkeThis is an amazing book that you could read in one sitting; full of advice about both writing and love. He laments "loss of the self" in relationships and is the biggest proponent of solitude, which is helpful to hear when you're alone. I remember he wrote that real love is "when two solitudes protect and border and greet each other", which I found so beautiful.
- •Let's Mend website and Instagram accounthttp://bit.ly/1L2fm13 This is a really great new startup/website with articles, essays and resources to turn to when facing heartbreak.
- •Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl StrayedA collection of the advice column "Dear Sugar" from the author of Wild. This is straight-shooting, gut-wrenching advice about living your most honest life. I return to it when I need a reminder to cut the bullshit and get back on board with what I know is true. Here is one of her most affecting columns//therumpus.net/2010/06/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-39-the-baby-bird/
- •One Art by Elizabeth BishopA good reminder to "lose something every day."
- •Ask Polly advice column by Heather Havrileskyhttp://nym.ag/1MuCbFV Another fantastic advice column. If Heather Havrilesky and Cheryl Strayed ever got in a room together, the world would explode from too much truth.
- •The Wisdom of a Broken Heart by Susan PiverGirl is an EXPERT on mindful breakups and where the Buddhist path meets the angsty broken heart. Try searching for her talk on heartbreak in the Interdependence Project website/ podcasts page.Suggested by @Aliiice