IT'S NOT ABOUT ME.
An exercise in mindfulness
- •When I am stuck in traffic, I often find myself getting really angry.
- •"I'm not going to have time to work out."
- •"I'm going to be late to work and my patient is going to be pissed off."
- •"I'm going to miss my dinner reservation."
- •"I'm barely going to get to spend any time with my husband before being on call all weekend."
- •And then I stop myself and take a big, deep breath and let it out (sometimes three breaths).This has taken me years to learn, and I still falter occasionally.
- •Because it isn't about me. Or you. It's about the person who just got into a car wreck and died, or was seriously injured, or who now doesn't have a car.
- •And they or their loved ones are maybe feeling like it is the end of the world.
- •That's not to say that my feelings in that or similar situations aren't valid.
- •But it sure puts it into perspective.
- •And then I don't feel angry anymore.
- •And if nothing else, it forces me to slow down.
- •Sometimes I need to slow down.
- •Sometimes we all need to slow down.