Respect babies. They're people too.
This came up today as a friend was complaining to me about difficulties she is having in her relationship with her husband, who expects too much of their 7 month old.
- •So, I was thinking, as I held my high needs baby for her only decent nap today...
- •I was so clueless about babies before I had her.
- •Even though I've played doctor to thousands of kids ...
- •I expected too much and didn't respect babies as people.
- •Part of this is based on misconceptions from TV.
- •Babies - my baby anyway - don't just sleep whenever, wherever.Mine sleeps in my arms or her crib ... not even the car seat.
- •And why should they?
- •Do we expect adults to do that? To sleep with noise, lights, people talking, etc. . .
- •Do you let people watch you use the bathroom? (Spouses with the door open don't count).So why do people expect to watch babies during a diaper change and think it's ok to just be there for that?
- •And do you stay happy when you're hungry? No? You get hangry?Babies invented hangry.
- •So don't expect anyone to put off feeding their baby because it's inconvenient for you or anyone else.
- •Babies are people, too. They're needy people, but they're people.
- •And we need to do a better job of respecting them and not having unrealistic expectations of them.