FIVE TIPS FOR NEW GRANDPARENTS
- •Don't offer unsolicited advice or tips about feeding, nursing, sleep-training, dressing, nursery decor, parenting or bottle feeding. Stay away from questions like "Is she overdressed?" "Do you have enough milk?" "Have you thought about enrolling her in the right preschool?"
- •Keep your mouth shut. Do a lot of proactive helping, cleaning up, grocery shopping, errands. Action always speaks louder than words to a first or anytime postpartum mother. Don't ask "how can I help?; rather offer helpful things you can do for the new parents.
- •Know that the new mother is experiencing the 4th trimester of pregnancy and is not eager to pass her baby around like a sack of potatoes. Give your daughter or daughter-in-law space and time to bond as much as she wants to. There will be plenty of time for bonding in the near future.
- •Don't barge in unannounced. New parents need space and time to experience the new member of their family. Don't expect an "open door" policy as they orient to the baby and a new life style. Don't take it personally or be offended.
- •Respect the new parents and their practices and childcare philosophies. Do, however, let them know that you are always a heart beat away when needed.