Only because you adked
  1. You don't need clergy ( religiously) but you do need two witnesses
  2. No receiving line: yichud
  3. Yichud is taking a few minutes alone, just the two of you, after the ceremony
  4. Your friends are there To entertain you. Not the other way around
  5. Just buyThe New Jewish Wedding (by me)
  6. Wear comfortable shoes
  7. Enough with the salmon
  8. Getting hoisted up on a chair by drunken friends is safe. Enough. It is less terrifying than it appears
  9. Get yourselves a Ketubah you like enough to frame and hang
  10. Break a real glass (or two glasses for egalitarians) under the huppah. Light bulbs are tacky even if nobody else can see