1. Choose your battles wisely
    Pick the things that are most important to you and stick to it. Everything else is compromise.
  2. If your child takes off their shoes in a store, you either have to put them both back on or leave both of them off
    If you don't, every single parent or grandparent that you run into will tell you that your child is missing a shoe.
  3. If your child has the slightest difference, get a thicker skin immediately
    My son wears glasses and has since he was 18 months. EVERYONE HAS FEELINGS ABOUT THIS AND WILL TELL YOU ABOUT IT. Comments can range from infuriating ("aw poor baby") to annoying ("omg are his glasses real?") to genuine curiosity ("how did you know he needed them?"). I have also developed go-to responses because it never fails to catch me off guard.
  4. Not everything has to be shared
    I don't make my kids share everything. Some things can be just for them and most things are first come first serve. Also, if it's on the ground it's up for grabs
  5. They're the child, I'm the adult. Act accordingly
    Something I frequently remind myself during tantrums. Emotions are incredibly difficult, especially if you can't express them. My kids are passionate and feel disappointments strongly (polite way of saying that because they can't get that toy right now ITS THE END OF THE WORLD 😵)
  6. Your child won't starve themselves to death
    My toddler is a living breathatarian. I used to stress myself out about how much he ate, but we're all a lot happier without me documenting each bite of food he takes.
  7. Have many well stocked first aid kits in several places (upstairs, downstairs, car, I have a mini one I carry in my purse)
    You just never know
  8. Make dr appointments right when they open or right after lunch
    Least amount of waiting room time.
  9. Gently start them early on things they could end up being afraid of: potty training, swimming lessons, dentist appointments, bike riding, etc. It makes a world of difference.
    Suggested by @dwntwnjules
  10. Don't compare yourself to other moms- just do you. And don't judge other moms. That mom that's yelling at her kid in Target might be having a really bad day. Just smile and keep it movin.
    Suggested by @shanaz
  11. Respect is a two-way street.
    Mutual respect goes a long way towards making kids want to cooperate. Similarly, listening to them with genuine interest makes them more likely to listen.
    Suggested by @DG
  12. "No one knows my kid better than me."
    Repeat this mantra in your head when on the receiving end of unsolicited advice or solicited advice that goes against your gut. Trust yourself.
    Suggested by @ladyprofessor
  13. Ban the phrase "enjoy every minute!"
    You won't, and neither will any new patent. Don't feel like something is wrong with you if you sometimes want to run away.
    Suggested by @sarahjp