LESSONS WE CAN LEARN FROM MY GRANDMA EDLINE
My dad's mom passed away this week. She was 90 and she had some pretty sweet moves. I should like to steal some of them, but she deserves credit.
- •Make your own kind of small talkSometimes open-ended questions do the trick. My grandma was fond of asking simply "So, what do you know?" (I find myself asking myself this question a lot. Often the answer is "not much.")
- •Just wear a sweatshirtMy grandma was a pretty casual lady. She wore dresses when attending weddings and she always looked lovely, but for most occasions her getting "dressed up" involved putting on a nice sweatshirt, pants, and comfortable shoes. (A nice sweatshirt usually has something embroidered on the front.)
- •You don't need a manHer husband (my grandpa) died more than 25 years ago. She loved him and missed him, but she didn't cease to exist without him.
- •You don't always have to tell people what you're thinkingI'm quite certain that my grandma had plenty of thoughts and feelings and opinions that she kept all to herself.
- •You don't have to go to a party just because you were invitedMy oldest brother planned his wedding in less than a week. He didn't really want to invite a bunch of people (or any people) but my parents insisted that he invite grandma. He did and she was like, no thanks! I think she had a doctor's appointment that day and didn't want to go rearranging her schedule just because her weirdo grandson decided to get married on a Tuesday afternoon.
- •You can end a conversation whenever it pleases youYou're probably getting the sense that my grandma had a pretty minimalist approach to conversation. Maybe this was something she started doing in her old age, but I love the fact that when she was done talking to someone on the phone, she would abruptly say, "Okay! Bye!" I really wish I had used this technique at the bar this Halloween when the annoying dude dressed as a Fraggle wouldn't leave me alone. Edline wouldn't have stood for his s**t, I'm sure of it.
- •Have a gardenFresh vegetables are the best. And fruit trees in your backyard mean you'll never be without pie.