Today I Found Out That My Mother's Cancer Has Returned; Things I'm Thinking About

(This will be my mother's 3rd and likely final bout with cancer.)
  1. I'm afraid the treatment will kill her.
    She nearly died after one round of low-dose chemo last time.
  2. I think her quality of life may be better if she forgoes treatment.
  3. I don't know how or when to tell my son that his grandmother's cancer is back.
    My son is a worrier to the point of occasional insomnia. He also just lost his dog in late April. He's almost 13 and is going away to camp for 3 weeks in July. I may wait until he's back from camp to tell him. I don't want him to worry while he's away.
  4. I have no idea what's going to become of my dad after she dies.
    They're so codependent and have so little contact with others besides my husband, my son, and myself. I worry about how much help he'll need. I worry that he'll feel like he has nothing to live for when she's gone.
  5. I was really hoping to have more of a break from caregiving for people with cancer before launching back into it.
    This sounds very selfish, but I've been doing a LOT of caregiving for the past 5 years.
  6. My mother is not ready for people to know, so I feel a little guilty posting but since very few people on List actually know me I'm hoping this will be a safe place to vent. Please don't relist this one. Thanks.