Oh no this feels so narcissistic
  1. This is one of those topics I could never bring up in front of my parents.
  2. They'd say, of course take care of yourself. You can't work or be happy or be a good wife or friend if you don't.
  3. Here are the things my dad considers essential for self-care: get plenty of sleep, and try not to get overwhelmed by borrowing trouble from tomorrow.
  4. That's it. I think that's all he ever really told me to do.
  5. This is bc my dad is the smartest person in the world and he assumed everything else was obvious.
  6. It was not obvious.
  7. So here are the 2 things I am learning/have learned about self-care.
  8. 1. Learn not to care about things that don't really matter. This is hard, bc I'm a control freak, and I like to have a plan, and I want things in writing, and I want ppl to do what I want to do.
  9. Concrete examples: If I can get away with not worrying over something--getting an early start on the laundry! planning parties and get-togethers! Elaborate meals!--then I shouldn't worry about it. Deal with essentials one day at a time.
  10. I had a therapist once advise me to try being as lackadaisical as the ppl in my life who were stressing me out. It changed my world. I love that advice.
  11. Sub point: do not turn recreation into work. do not turn recreation into competition.
  12. 2. Alongside not caring about things that don't matter at all is focusing really carefully on things that do.
  13. This is one of the reasons I so admire Maggie Stiefvater, the YA writer. She knows what she loves and what she wants to do and she has built a life around those things. I'm sure she's not perfect, but she appears to be really singleminded. I just love that.
  14. Concrete examples: less social media. less tv. More reading. More writing. More friend-/Wade-time.
  15. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
  16. This has been the longest most roundabout post on self-care of all time.
  17. Any additions, friends?
  18. Buy yourself something for *you. Not bc he'll think you'll look hot or she'll be jelly it's expensive but bc it's nice to spoil yourself once in a while.💕 oh and bubble baths. Oh and journal!! it's so good to journal if you're that type of person. yikes, I have a few lolll
    Suggested by @nikkilounoel
  19. For me, it really helps to think about what I can do anything about in this moment. When I'm involved in an activity, I can only really do that one thing. For example, when I'm at work I cannot do anything about laundry or dishes, or why my wife is upset, or cooking. All I can do is work. Concentrate only on the task at hand.
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