Meeting the family
So here's the thing, my views about introducing family to a significant other are sort of backwards.
- •First of all, when I refer to my "family" I really mean my parents, my two older brothers, and my niece. They're who really matters. Anyone outside of that is irrelevant.
- •They love me and I them, however, we aren't exactly close. We're always there for each other when needed and desired but for the most part we all do our own thing.
- •Talking about my feelings and issues is something I've never shared with my family but rather my best friends.
- •Boys isn't a taboo subject but it's something we just don't touch upon. They trust my judgement so this has never been an issue.In all honesty, it's an awkward subject for all parties because I'm the only girl and youngest in the family.
- •That's why introducing my SO to the family is such a big step for me.
- •This is where I get backwards: I'll present anyone to my family but if it's someone I'm interested in, I'll refrain from bringing them home or bringing them up in conversation.
- •My parents are very laid back and friendly so they've met a majority of my friends.
- •If my parents have something to say about my friends, I respect that it's their opinion and I won't let that affect our friendship.Fortunately, that hasn't happened yet.
- •BUT if they have something to say about my partner that's a different story.
- •While my SO and I are getting to know each other, I want to make sure we complement each other and that my family will like them because they're approval means a lot to me.
- •There is no point in bringing someone home that isn't here for the long run. That's too much effort (and NERVES‼️).
- •In summary, I must reaaaally like you if you haven't met my parents.Doesn't make sense, huh?