Responses and reactions people give me when they learn that I don't want to have children.

  1. "Psh, yes you do."
    Ohhhhh, okay. Thank you.
  2. "You just haven't met the right guy yet!"
    Yeah, that's definitely it. Having children is a decision people only make when they meet the right guy, not because they actually want to. It's the guy!
  3. "Really? What else are you going to do...?"
    Nothing. Absolutely nothing. There is nothing else. Maybe I WILL have a couple kids? You know, just so I have something to do.
  4. "WHAT? Why! You'd be such a good mom!"
    Well in that case, okay! I changed my mind! It doesn't matter that I whole-heartedly do not want to be a mother; I'll be good at it, so who gives a shit.
  5. "Who's going to take care of you when you're old?"
    ??? Yeah, good point. Better have a few just to make sure I'm really taken care of. I didn't realize that so many of the people I've met in nursing homes never had kids and that's why they don't have anyone visiting or caring for them. Wait. They all have kids? Having kids doesn't guarantee they're gonna take care of you? Kids are assholes? This is not what I was told.
  6. "Haha... *looks at me like I'm a naive little girl* You'll change your mind when you get older."
    I'm 28. I'm 28-years-old and people STILL say this to me. I wonder what age is considered "older" because I've been hearing this since I was about ten.
  7. "You don't know what you want."
    Don't ever fucking tell a woman, or anyone for that matter, what they do or do not want. I'm very capable of deciding what I do and don't want to do just like you were capable of deciding you wanted five kids.
  8. "You'll regret it."
    No, at 28 I'm very happy and comfortable with my decision. But even so, I'd much rather regret not having kids than regret having them.
  9. "You say that now, but..."
    I've known I haven't wanted to have children since I was in elementary school, but yeah, I'm sure it's just a 20 year phase I'm going through.
  10. "But you love babies!"
    Of course I do, but that isn't reason enough to have a child. A love of babies doesn't make a person a good or capable parent.
  11. Bottom line:
    I don't question why you've decided to have kids. I don't try to convince you not to have any. I don't make you feel inadequate or guilt you into having them. And I certain do not think YOU'RE incapable of knowing what you want out of life (Or in my case, don't want). But in all honesty, what it all comes down to, is that it's no one's fucking business.
  12. Peace, ya'll! Say hi to the kids for me!