I AM SEETHING
Can't drive. Writing this. Maybe I'm being sensitive, but...
- •Today was spent in professional development with the other music teachers of our district.And it was great. Productive. Fun. Enjoyable.
- •So I'm on my way out, and this woman who a friend student taught with comes up to me, says hi, is friendly.I never liked her to begin with but...
- •She then proceeds to unknowingly insult me.Twice.
- •She bring up my friend, who I rarely speak to anymore since he moved away. We're on good terms, though there was a time when absolutely every little thing he said irritated me. But he's better now, and we speak from time to time.
- •Back story: this friend is very much a follower. It has always annoyed me about him. But years ago, after I graduated, I mentioned how I wanted to do music therapy. He all of a sudden becomes interested too. He was student teaching at the time, and when he finished that, we planned on going to Colorado State together for their equivalency program.So that was already annoying that he decided on music therapy as well, but whatever. At least I won't be going alone... He ended up moving to Colorado and I didn't. But he didn't end up doing music therapy because I don't think he ever actually wanted to.
- •Anyway, I tell her about what he's up to. He just finished grad school with a degree in music something. I don't talk to him enough to truly know. I think education.And she says, "good for him! I remember him always talking about music therapy. But he's too good for that... He was always good with such and such..." And insinuated that the only music therapy patients are those whose parents are "drug addicted".
- •I'm sorry. First off, I'm a damn good music teacher, but I am in no way "too good" for music therapy.And in no way are all future patients of mine going to be "kids with drugged up parents". I understand that that may sometimes be the case, but to essentially insinuate that students with disabilities are that way because their parents did drugs? Absolutely wrong. And I'm offended that someone in my current field would feel so negatively about children who have disabilities, and so negatively about a field so closely related to her own.
- •And then...
- •Another backstory: my friend ended up rushing his move to Colorado because he and his boyfriend broke up and he wanted away from him. After he moved, we drifted apart, and his ex and I became very close and now he is one of my best friends.CO friend is now engaged to someone else.
- •She also says: "I saw that he's engaged! That's so exciting. You know, sometimes I see his other boyfriend around and I say 'I'm glad he's not with you anymore. He's better off. Because he's way too good for you.'..."
- •First of all, she hasn't seen him because he moved and no longer lives in this city. Second of all, who are you to presume who is too good for who?CO is very, very clingy and extremely needy, and EX is incredibly independent. They just didn't work together. It happens. Also, EX is a wonderful person, so do not say anyone is too good for him.
- •I'm so upset.
- •And I wish I could be vocal about my thoughts.But instead I just fake smiled until she stopped talking.