Ask a therapist

  1. More and more people seem to be suffering from post-Trump related stress and seeking therapy. Therapy can be scary. Maybe I can help, so ask me anything
  2. I want to protect myself from the stress and anxiety of it all by not reading the news, hiding in my very small, safe life and not engaging with anyone about politics, especially if they don't agree with me. But checking out in favor of self-care leads to....
    Such guilt bc I know my whiteness/socio-economic status is why I have the ability to ignore everything and still be okay. It seems like a lose-lose situation. The answer may be to stay informed, be brave enough to kindly challenge people who support the new administration and have hope. But that seems hardest of all. Help?
    Suggested by   @amieshmamie
  3. @amieshmamie it's a very fine line between self care and hiding. Start with small changes like only reading more reliable news sources like NYT, Washington post and in moderation.
    Take actionable steps to utilize your privileges for good, like calling senators, marching, supporting local organizations that fight for civil rights. And for every step in opposition to trump, take time to thank someone who has helped you during this time, whether you know them personally or they're a public figure. Tell them how much they mean to you and how important their passion and fight is for all of us. It's all about the balance and will help you continue to see the good in the world
  4. Do you have advice on finding an affordable psychiatrist or one who accepts insurance? I have one right now but she doesn't even look up from her papers when she sees me! I like being on my medication, but it feels silly to pay to see someone like that.
    Suggested by   @aliciamcelhaney
  5. @aliciamcelhaney it is pretty common unfortunately for psychs to do just that. They really only do med management these days, with exceptions of course. I would look into telemedicine. Tons of insurances now cover psych services via telemedicine due to the shortages of psychs.
  6. Thanks for this! I feel like since the election, I've lost some of my ability to feel empathy and compassion for people, especially Trump supporters.
    I feel like I used to have an understanding that people come from different backgrounds and have different ways of looking at things. Now all I can see is ignorance and bigotry, even from people I considered friends. I'm cordial, but I no longer have an interest in being friends or even caring about them and their lives. I don't want to be a harsh, uncaring or intolerant person, but that's where I feel like I am now.
    Suggested by   @jenniferm
  7. @jenniferm that is a totally normal way to be feeling. Continue to limit your interactions with people who are not good for you. When you do have the energy to stand up for the cause and educate people, do so in public constructive forums and not on the internet where trolls are waiting or at family dinners. You'll feel your efforts aren't in vain
  8. When someone leaves your life, how are you supposed to cope with it? This happens to me this week, and I know it's normal to miss those who leave us, but I feel like it's somewhat debilitating.
    I'm fairly young, so this is a pretty new experience for me--having to say goodbye to someone and possibly not seeing them again. (It was a break up) I feel confused because I miss him but I know it was for the better, and in my mind, I'm pushing myself to move forward, yet I still feel heavy in my heart. I think about him a lot. I guess that I feel frustrated at time because I want to get back to being 100% free, and I want to put my heart into things NOW,
    Suggested by   @adriannathebueno
  9. Should I see a therapist?
    I feel as though I'm at a point of a shit ton of development and coming-of-age and I've got a lot on my mind. Is it appropriate to see a therapist just because I'm lost?
    Suggested by   @adriannathebueno
  10. @adriannathebueno to answer both questions, yes you should see a therapist. Everyone should. It is a great way to have a corrective experience in relationships. We often only end relationships via traumatic breakups, messy friend breakups, and death. A therapist can correct that experience to teach you that not all endings have to be bad.
    Endings is just the signal to new beginnings and fresh opportunities utilizing all you have learned. At this moment, you need to mourn your breakup. The hardest part is having to reimagine your future without this person. Focus on mourning the nostalgia you hold for this person, past and future. You're going to long for this person, but remember that you have learned everything you can already from this relationship. Use it to pick yourself up and move forward.
  11. @adriannathebueno may I suggest as an intro to therapy if you are still hesitant, an online licensed therapist. Talkspace uses all licensed therapists that you can utilize in a text based therapy or video sessions for the more traditional feel of therapy.