She's having a baby!

Like, right now!
  1. Debating whether to tell a new mama about li.st
    On one hand, it might be a good distraction. On the other hand, it may get in the way of sleep!
  2. So, I was thinking I'd make a list of advice, then share it with her.
    And let her decide.
  3. Any advice for a first-time, single mom??
  4. 👶🏻🎀
  5. Sleep when she sleeps.
    But if you can't for any reason, do not waste time feeling guilty about it.
  6. Take advantage of the lactation consultants at the hospital.
    Don't be shy. They know their stuff and are an invaluable resource.
  7. You know that jackass that you can just tell was fed formula as a baby?
    No? Ok then. Don't beat yourself up if breastfeeding doesn't work out for you two.
  8. Don't feel intimidated if you feel like you don't know what you're doing.
    Nobody does. Everyone is faking it.
  9. Ask for help. And be specific about what you need.
  10. Duplicates!! Keep two of things you'll need a lot (one upstairs, one down)
    That blue bulb thing, that awful spray, nipple cream, etc.
  11. Speaking of that blue bulb — take it!!
    The ones they sell a the stores are crap. Keep one in your diaper bag. One at Grandma's, etc.
  12. Load up on mesh panties!
    (Ew. I said panties) Take them all! They are your friend!
  13. And the giant pads, too!
  14. Enjoy your tiny baby!!
  15. You don't need to get out and be jogging/do mommy & me yoga/be coiffed in the weeks after birth.
    I felt such guilt, embarrassment that I couldn't pull my shit together, but just hunker down! Those first couple months are for nesting, not posting Pinterest worthy pics.
    Suggested by   @ameliaville
  16. Motherhood can be really lonely, but you're not alone! Every mom's boobs hurt! Every mom has despaired! Reach out to your friends, day or night, I promise they'll be up for commiserating!
    Suggested by   @ameliaville
  17. Take care of you too..get together with friends, everyone needs a break even though it makes you feel guilty
    Suggested by   @sjrockstar
  18. Take videos pictures whatever you need..it really does goes by fast
    Suggested by   @sjrockstar
  19. When someone offers help take it and run with it..
    No one is super mom
    Suggested by   @sjrockstar
  20. Everyone says establish a routine..blah blah
    Just take it one day at a time it will all fall into place
    Suggested by   @sjrockstar
  21. There will come a point when you're sad..like don't want to even shower sad..its normal
    Suggested by   @sjrockstar
  22. Take everything from the hospital that's not nailed down
    Suggested by   @mallofamanda
  23. Listen to the podcast One Bad Mother.
    Their episodes are titled by subject, so you can find one that you need! They are awesome when you feel isolated.
  24. "This too shall pass."
    ☝🏼This advice is a comfort re: the hard parts of a given baby phase, but it also applies to the easy parts/joys of the same phase - the phases pass SO quickly so don't forget to breathe in the good parts so you can enjoy & remember them all the while wishing for the hard parts of that phase to end. My only other advice is break all the "rules" & do whatever it takes to survive. Every mom I know whispered this to me in the early days & it saved me. So now I try to whisper it to new moms too. ❤️
    Suggested by   @elizalou
  25. Don't be scared when people say "always" or "never".
    I heard so many things that just weren't true. (You'll never run or have time to exercise again. You never be able to read another book. You'll never sleep until he's 18.) Everyone's experience is different.