A day in the life: [stay at home mama to school kids]
Inspired by @silverwolf634 — My oldest starts school in 2 weeks & my youngest does part time preschool. Here's what a typical Monday will look like for us.
- •6/6:30am 🚽👦🏼👧🏻👚👖💄Wake upon hearing youngest (boy, 3.5) slam his door open to run to the bathroom. Incidentally, I haven't set an alarm to wake in over 6 years. Kids come to cuddle in bed as family for a bit while the morning news is on TV. Everyone bathes during the evening, so we all scramble to put on clothes (makeup for me), brush teeth, & make beds. 90% of the time I have to remind/scold oldest (girl, 6) to stop playing with her toys & get her everyday tasks done.
- •7am 🍳☕️🎒We're all downstairs in the kitchen. Hubs kisses all & heads to work. I negotiate breakfast & pack a lunch for daughter, also help get bags together. I send them off to play or watch TV so I can drink coffee & eat something. 20 minutes of blissful "quiet"
- •8am 👟🚗📚Scramble to put on sunscreen & shoes, then drive to elementary school. Son & I walk daughter to class & hang til bell rings (this will slowly cease once 1st grade progresses & she desires to just be dropped off). Back to car to drop off son at preschool.
- •9am 💃🏽☕️💪🏽💻Dance a jig over having quiet house all to self. Down more coffee. Run an errand (groceries) or do yoga at home. Then either work on my Shakespeare writing project or whatever contract project (HR systems stuff like setting up open enrollment or sorting salary/benefits data) that I'm doing for the former employer. I work on projects either at home or local library. Usually (begrudgingly) throw some sort of chore (vacuuming, laundry) in for good measure.
- •Noon 👦🏼🍓🍔 🙏🏼💤Pick up son! We lunch together at home & play for a bit. I then put him down for "quiet time" in his room for ~1.5 hours. On good days, he naps during that time. On hard days, he plays by himself for a bit, destroys his room, then emerges to tell me he needs me. It is unclear what he needs me for outside of cuddling because he usually rejects all other suggestions for playing. If he naps, I do housework or whatever I didn't get to finish working on from the morning.
- •2pm 🚗👧🏻🙈🙉🙊We leave to pick up daughter. (It will take me a solid 15 minutes to wake/convince son that we have to get sissy.) We may go hit a park or library at this point. Or, we go play at home (backyard time, puzzles, art project, baking, or just hanging with our toys). I will have to break up 2.7 brawls on average per day during this period.
- •5pm 📺🍲🍽I shamelessly put the kids in front of the TV. I remove myself to my sanctuary, the kitchen (mercifully not open-concept floor plan) to make supper. During this time I fend off requests for snacks, abandon what I'm doing at least 3.4 times to mediate sibling conflict, cook something moderately healthy, and usually have a podcast going on in the background. Hubs comes home around or after the time we start eating (6pm). Negotiate talks on # bites required to access dessert.
- •7pm 🛁📖👧🏻👦🏼🛌Hubs & I split duties; usually tag teaming. One of us corrals kids upstairs to bathe, the other cleans kitchen & any downstairs disasters. We're both upstairs later to split the kids up, each handling story time/quiet playing with one. We try to trade off kids each night so we can spend alone time with each one. But usually a screamy son pulls a trump card on which parent he prefers for the night. We never know who he'll be into on a given day.
- •8:30pm 🚿🍷👩🏻👨🏻📺Hubs & I get adult time! This can mean any number of things. Both of us shower. Then sometimes we hang together with a TV show & wine, or talk, or other adult activities (hubba, hubba). Other days we're each exhausted & crave time alone, in which case I write or read & he watches TV. Often we talk about how exciting it is to do baby-making without the actual result of making any more babies. 2's plenty for us.
- •10/10:30pm 👨🏻👩🏻📖🛌Usually bedtime. He falls asleep while I read for 20 minutes, then do the same.