Ways to make life decisions. (When you don't like talking to other people.)
Typical daily thought process...
- 1.What would Pocahontas do?"Should I marry Kocoum? Is all my dreaming at an end?" In high school this scene psyched me up enough to dump my boyfriend. Thanks Disney, while historically inaccurate, it gave me enough backbone to get over my crippling fear of disappointing someone long enough to pick me.
- 2.Pro-con listsI use these every single day of my life. For everything. Should I do laundry or yard work? What length should I cut my hair? I am a historically terrible decision maker. Mostly because I will weigh every single option until I am so overwhelmed, I have an anxiety attack and give up. Or I make such a spur of the moment decision I instantly regret it, so much so I no longer trust myself. Nothing is more painful than taking me shopping for something of value. current list: find a new shampoo.
- 3.Enter the flow chart.If pro con lists are my wine, flow charts are my tequila. (And it's looking like the new shampoo list is heading in this direction.) I made this flow chart when I was 24. After 3, almost 4 of the longest years of the worst relationship ever. I am almost 33, I still occasionally have nightmares about that turd. But without this visualization idk if I would have ever realized the levels of misery I was enduring, but that's another list all together.
- 4.Suck it up and call your Kevin.Some people are just too close to ever see things clearly. I know with 100% certainly the advice my family will give before they give it. Enter Kevin. He has been among my inner circle since y2k, we talk enough to know the names of each other's pets' medical histories, but not so much that I roll my eyes and think, "What now?" when he texts. Even when I don't listen, he's usually right in the end. Which I hate, but whatever.