What It's Like for No One to Believe You're in Pain
I am often in pain, from random freak accidents to physical symptoms of stress. While I receive great healthcare, I wish for those around me to understand the magnitude of the pain I suffer. Inspired by this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gxz-IBgeDHc&feature=youtu.be
- •Growing up, I was often in random accidents that required a hospital visit.Examples: dropping a bowling ball on my thumb at age 2, falling off a chair and headfirst onto an air vent, you get the picture.
- •I have also dealt with anxiety for many many years.It wasn't clinically diagnosed until fairly recently, but I showed symptoms of anxiety around middle school.
- •Due to multiple reasons, my parents rarely believed that I was sick or in pain.Blame culture, healthcare expenses, the fact that I lied once about feeling sick when I was 4, etc.
- •One time, I told my parents that I was sick and didn't want to go to school, but they sent me to school anyway. Ten minutes into homeroom, I was sent to the nurse's office with a 102 degree fever.My parents hugely value education, so I get their reasons but still.
- •Right before tests or presentations in class, I've always felt nauseous and would start shaking.Eventually, I found out this is a symptom of social anxiety. My parents thought it was shyness and that I was faking being sick to not present.
- •For the first six years of having a period, I had painful cramps and migraines.My pelvic region would be in so much pain until it went numb. They finally stopped when I was 18 and convinced my doctor to put me on the pill. Cramp-free for nearly four years!
- •The only reason why I suffered for so long was that my mom didn't seek to empathize with my pain.She always told me that it would eventually die down and to "suck it up" until then.
- •All my life, the only thing I wanted was for my pain to be understood by the people who care for me.The problem is that everyone handles and suffers through pain differently. People think they know what the person is going through, like my mom thinking my cramps would eventually go away because her's did.
- •It's gotten better now. My parents finally believe me when I say that I'm sick, but there's still a hint of "are you sure you're in pain?" when they ask further.I'll take what I can get.
- •I guess the point of this list was to encourage others to seek to understand someone's pain and to not dismiss it.Let them try to explain it to you. If they don't want to or if you don't understand, try to support them in any way possible.