"CRAZY EX-GIRLFRIEND" AND THE ART OF EMPATHY

  1. Tonight's "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" tackled Rebecca's depression head-on.
    In the pilot, we see Rebecca dumping her meds down the sink before moving to West Covina. Tonight, she went into a spiral that involved self-medicating with alcohol/pills and trying to steal a prescription pad from her psychiatrist.
  2. Rebecca is unstable. But she's not crazy.
    The show is never preachy about it, but "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" takes great care to present Rebecca's problems in a grounded, relatable way. "Crazy" is a dismissive word - it implies a behavior that is unexplainable, inexplicable. Once you see Rebecca's life in a full context, her seemingly insane actions become...well, heartbreaking, honestly.
  3. I was once in a relationship with an unstable woman. And at the time, I called her crazy.
    I would always preface this with the cake-and-eat-it-too "I know it's wrong to call women crazy, BUT..." And until recently, this is a point-of-view I stood behind.
  4. "Crazy Ex-Girlfriend" helped me understand my own ex-girlfriend.
    When you're dating someone who frequently acts irrationally, it can be an emotionally draining experience. But there's a root to that behavior - one you won't and can't see if you're on the receiving end of a person's emotional abuse.
  5. My anger and resentment toward this woman have turned into empathy.
    For the first time in years, I genuinely hope she's doing okay. I hope she got the help she needed.
  6. And all of this because of a show where a woman breaks into song about Spanx.