1. Looking for Friendship
    I want this from every non-transactional interaction. I feel like we all do. I want to like you, and I want you to like me. This makes sense to me.
  2. Looking for Sex
    I want this when I meet an attractive woman. I want her to want it from me. I want it to happen, and I don't want to unintentionally cross any lines when I suggest it should happen. When it's over, I want both of us to feel good about the situation. Whether or not we do it again, I want it to be a wholly positive experience. This makes sense to me.
  3. Looking for Dating
    I want this on occasion. Every once in a while, I meet someone who I want to be with often, with just the two of us. I want to take them to dinner and see movies with them in the cemetery. I want to hold their hand while I'm driving my car. I want to get to know them better. This makes sense to me.
  4. Looking for a Relationship
    Romantic relationships, by definition, are long-term. Entering a relationship is expressing certainty - "I want you, and I know I want you, and I know you want me. We are going to stay here and be happy together for the foreseeable future." When I was younger, this made sense to me. My youth was filled with certainty. I wanted to marry my high school sweetheart. I'm no longer certain. I never look for a relationship now. Honestly, I don't know what I'm looking for. Nothing makes sense to me.