BOWIE IS MY LIFE PARTNER, YEAR 7
Bowie the Dog and I are celebrating 7 years together this week. Every year I say a little gratitude prayer, and this year is no different except now I get to share my some of my thoughts with you fine folk!
- •I have the capacity to give and receive unconditional loveI suffered a staggering heartbreak that filled me with resentment and anger. Bowie always showed up to snuggle and ask for treats and I could never fully extinguish my love light as long as he was around.
- •As long as I am able to, I need to put one foot in front of the other and keep movingLiterally for the dog's sake; he does his business outside. But that meant that I had a solid reason to leave my house everyday and take a walk, no matter how cold, rainy, snowy, or hot it was. Thanks to him, I was able to keep my body active when my spirit was telling me to retreat into a cave.
- •We can't just eat whatever we want after a certain ageBowie got fat this year. He went to live with my family while I was across the country and he turned into a porker. He's 7, firmly middle aged, and even though he was my marathon training partner and I made a lot of adjustments to his meals, he just didn't return to his former self. Same for me. Eat more plants, drink less wine, exercise in new and fun ways. Have a buddy (I do, he never complains about another lap!)
- •It takes a villageI traveled a lot this year and last year. Like unfit for dog parenting a lot. But my family and friends stepped in to make sure Bowie was safe and happy. This made me feel safe and happy and grateful for their love and support.
- •It's okay to call out the difference between a good touch and a bad touchBowie loves massages and has a funny way of licking my hand then rubbing his eyes and face through my licked hand. He loves this. Bowie cannot stand anyone touching his feet or ankles, even me. He lets me know by nosing me off. If I resist, he escalates his response then removes himself from where he is feeling uncomfortable. Kudos on boundaries, dude.
- •Unpopular opinion: I don't need to love kidsBowie is not a kid-dog. He lets his lab mix dog cousins take the wallops from his human cousins. Though they have come around, my family at first thought this was such a shame. It never bothered me, it's just part of who he is, just like it is a part of who I am. As long as everyone was safe, that's all that matters to me. Neither Bowie nor I are kid-motivated; we'd much rather have a nice buddy for now.
- •Live your truthBowie is a rat terrier, which is arguably the shittiest name for a breed. He chases rodents; once he sees a squirrel he's fixated. It's in him to do that. It is his core nature. He lives his truth; and it's a good example. I am recovering from a painful time; chasing my healing is my truth right now. Luckily I have a solid example right here in front of me, showing me the way.