A Few Things About Growing Up That I Didn't Expect
- •Friendships change, and in some cases, they end, but that's not necessarily a bad thing.Once I got to a point where my friendships were no longer determined by proximity (who I went to high school with, who lived in my college dorm, etc.), I found that some friendships remained intact, and some naturally faded a bit. I also found that as I grew older and formed a better idea of who I am and what I want, there were a few instances where I stopped being compatible with some friends. It's a hard process, but an important one.
- •There are no guarantees.The best you can do is hedge your bets on a choice you believe in.
- •You have to ask for what you want in order to get it.In love, work, friendship, spirituality, health, and everything else, you have to articulate your desires in order to have them met.
- •Parents are fallible.They're human beings--of course they're fallible. But as a kid, it's easy to believe they're perfect and all-knowing. Finding out this truth is hard.
- •It can take a while to find your career path.If you told me when I was 22 that one day I would be writing cookbooks and working on a TV show, I would not have believed you. I was dead set on becoming a teacher at the time, and that seemed like it was going to be my life plan. I had to set out on one path in order to find a second one, and then a third one, and eventually the one I'm on now. It's not about failing at one thing and succeeding at another, it's just about trying different things.
- •There are no white knights to save you. You have to do it yourself.As I got older and more secure, I lost interest in being rescued anyway.
- •Relationships are hard work.See previous item. It's not enough to simply love someone. You have to work at being good partners.
- •Nobody knows what the hell they're doing.Not even "grown-ups."