Thanks for asking, @mkz.
- •Write about it. Privately in your journal, or publicly, if, like me, that's more your style. When you get the feelings out of your head and onto a page, it's empowering and cathartic.
- •Angry cardio.When you end a relationship, you're often left with angry feelings that are hard to metabolize. The best way to move through them in my experience is to hit the pavement. Long, angry runs, kickboxing, or even just Jagged Little Pill-fueled elliptical sessions. Afterward, you'll feel relaxed and will have a ton of endorphins running through your body.
- •Take lots of baths.With bubbles, salts, fancy shampoo, and luxurious lotion afterward. To soothe yourself inside, sometimes you have to start with the outside.
- •Cook for yourself.As far as I'm concerned there is no greater form of self care and empowerment than cooking a fabulous, nutritious meal for yourself. Buy good ingredients, use trusted recipes, and eat your meals on real plates with good, cloth napkins. You deserve it.
- •Therapy.During a difficult transition, it is so important to have a neutral, safe space to work through your feelings and experiences.
- •When you're ready, start dating again, but do your best to treat it as an activity as opposed to a means to an end.Sure, it may actually be a means to an end at some point, but if you treat it like an explorative activity that is both entertaining and fun, it can actually be reparative.
- •Remind yourself that you are ok.You are, I promise.