Thank you for asking, @musicman94. This is a subject I spend a lot of time thinking about.
  1. The first thing you should know is that I do not keep kosher.
    I never have. I grew up in a reform jewish household, the child of a man who grew up keeping kosher and stopped as soon as he left home.
  2. @evan, whom I love more than I have ever loved anyone, does.
    When we first got together three years ago, I was terrified that the difference in our dietary preferences was going to become a problem.
  3. After all, I am a professional food writer. Understanding, cooking, and eating all different types of food is more than just my livelihood---it's my greatest passion.
    Would he judge me for loving pork belly? Would I tire of checking labels for treyf?
  4. As it turned out, the answer is that it's not a big deal at all.
    At home, we keep kosher. When we go out, if something non-kosher tempts me, it is my prerogative. No judgment.
  5. Even though I don't keep kosher, I derive great pleasure from cooking a meal at home for Evan that satisfies his yearning for treyf, while adhering to the rules of kashrut.
    Kosher Buffalo wings, bacon made out of mushrooms, creamy fish chowder with smoky chipotle peppers, kosher beef bratwurst cooked in beer with onions--these are the things that satisfy his non-kosher cravings.
  6. The greatest expression of my love is these kosher Chinese dumplings. You do not need candlelight. You do not need flowers. Your dining companion will be putty in your hands when they bite into these porky, yet pork-free, bundles of love. Nay, lust.
    Here's the recipe
  7. Simply mix ground kosher turkey or beef (half and half is good) with scallions, cabbage, ginger, garlic, chilies, and a few other things.
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  8. And stuff it into potsticker wrappers.
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    If heckshers are an issue, make your own from scratch.
  9. Fry up a whole pan.
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  10. And devour.
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  11. Suddenly you're looking less like that special someone's b'maybe and a whole lot more like his or her b'sheret. ❤️