Why I'm Keeping My Last Name
I got engaged just over two weeks ago and since then, I have been asked if I will be changing my last name when I get married no fewer than twelve times. Here's why I will be keeping it.
- •My mother didn't change hers.
- •I've been using my given last name professionally for years, and changing it would be confusing.I've published 2 books with "by Gabi Moskowitz" printed on them. I'd like to remain easily searchable on Amazon.
- •It sounds like a giant headache to get done.Driver's license, credit cards, Social Security card, bank accounts, checks, insurance, email--it's definitely not a primary reason, but it still sounds like an awful lot of bureaucratic hoops to jump through.
- •Hyphenation is out.My last name is already a doozy. Smushing our names together might be in the realm of possibility if I were marrying someone with a very short last name like Lee or Bell. But I picked @evan Wolkenstein, and "Moskowitz-Wolkenstein" is just not something I would do to myself, let alone a child.
- •"But what about your kids!? Won't they be confused??"Why? I wasn't. Children accept what is presented to them. We will be two loving parents who happen to have different (multisyllabic, Jewish) last names.
- •It's just who I am.I totally understand and respect people who choose to change their names upon getting married (or for any reason, really), it just doesn't appeal to me. I have known since I was very young that I would always be Gabi Moskowitz. It's just who I am.