20 THINGS TO DO IN MY 20TH YEAR (2016)

Inspired by @shanaz! I turn 20 in a tiny hand full of days! That's crazy! Two decades!
  1. 1.
    Leave empty negativity behind
    I often fall into this mindset that I have to feel negatively towards things that don't deserve my attention, nor do I even want to be giving attention to.
  2. 2.
    Be emotionally correct vs. politically correct
    Political correctness is important, but it's more important to get your point across in a way that you are getting through to the person you're conversing with so that they want to listen to you. Compassion is key. It's finding the good in others rather than searching for things to nitpick when it's not necessary for you or the other person. I've worked hard on this during 2015, but it's a never ending resolution.
  3. 3.
    Read more
    Setting a goal to read books this year is going to hopefully bring back the person inside of me that LOVES reading. POETRY, TOO! Ugh, I love poetry.
  4. 4.
    Drink more water
    I tried giving up soda this year and it didn't work too well. Although I am very conscious about how much soda and coffee I'm drinking, I don't drink as much water as I should when I'm drinking other things. This is an ongoing resolution as well!
  5. 5.
    Spend less money
    College kid, here! It's so hard to not spend money when it's just little trips to fast food places or grabbing a quick donut when you can. Brunch is not necessary as often as it seems!
  6. 6.
    Spin-off: Eat better
    Eat fruit!!!!! Eat less Chick-fil-A because it's convenient! Less lattes with tons of sugar!
  7. 7.
    Research things that are interesting
    Make an ongoing list on my phone with topics that I find interesting pertaining to ANYTHING and spend some time doing research on these topics just for the sake of it. After all, that Research Methods in Psychology class should be put to good use somehow!
  8. 8.
    Leave old habits in the past
    No more checking social media of those I shouldn't continue to be thinking about when I know that I'm better off without them. Don't give boys that were bad to me the time of day whatsoever!
  9. 9.
    Reminding friends and family that I love them endlessly
    This is something that I'm already pretty good at but always an ongoing thing that should be happening. Even those friends you haven't seen or heard from deserve a little "thinking about you! Hope things are well!" text/email/call.
  10. 10.
    Minimize
    Don't buy things or hoard things if they are necessary - tangible and intangible. Bad thoughts, extra pairs of socks (when I already have WAY too many pairs), etc. Less social media interaction (I've gotten better at this, but also should stay mindful about what goes out there on the big, bad internet.)
  11. 11.
    Remind myself that everyone has different paths
    Just because someone else is getting engaged and someone else is working their dream job doesn't mean that I should feel resentful of them because I want these things and don't have them. My time will come! Keep on trekking through what I'm going right now and feel over the moon happy for others!
  12. 12.
    Let go of jealousy
    Such a terrible emotion. A difficult task. Achievable through becoming at peace with myself.
  13. 13.
    Be proactive
    Do what I say I've been wanting to do. Chase after what I know in my heart is something I should chase after.
  14. 14.
    Be kinder to myself
    Self-confidence has always been something I've been pretty good at, but it's always a great reminder to be kind to yourself - mentally and physically.
  15. 15.
    Write more
    This one of my major ongoing resolutions. I love to write and have a hard time finding the motivation to do so, but I must make a point to do so in the new year.
  16. 16.
    Invest
    In friendships, in shoes, in clothes. None of these things should be cheap. Surface-level friendships are a waste of time and not worth holding on to. Clothes and shoes should get more than a few wears out of them, and should come from places that are sweatshop-free. This is hard as a college student, but less is more and investing is more important. Quality over quantity.
  17. 17.
    Be authentic
    Be true in personality, spirit and character. Do not be in bad faith!!! (Thanks, Sartre.)
  18. 18.
    Expand my mind
    Consider points of view that I'm not familiar with nor do I necessarily agree with, but learn about for the sake of seeing other sides of arguments and beliefs.
  19. 19.
    Never cease to be passionate, enthusiastic and caring
    Apathy is so passé. (I read this on @Debby's blog once. She's my soul sister.) Giving my entire heart and soul to things that I love is so important. Half-assing anything is not worth my time and if it means anything to me, I'll give it my all.
  20. 20.
    Love more
    Earlier in the year, a friend of mine caught himself when he said that he hated someone and actively considered that he should love others as he would want to be loved. I'm dropping my indifference towards those I feel nothing (or even negatively) for and swapping it out with love. Being loving towards others is so freeing.