If you make a person feel smart and insightful, that person will enjoy your company. The point is not to be manipulative, but to help other people feel good about their contributions to a conversation.
  1. Take notes.
    I’m a compulsive note-taker, and I used to feel self-conscious about pulling out my little notebook and taking notes during a casual conversation. Then I noticed that people really seemed to enjoy it; the fact that I was taking notes made their remarks seem particularly insightful or valuable. {Read the full article here: http://bit.ly/29fHWep }
  2. Refer to a comment that the person made earlier in the conversation.
    This reference shows a person that you’re tracking and remembering their comments very closely. And give people credit for their ideas!
  3. If a person doesn’t finish a thought, ask him or her to pick it up again.
  4. Use the person’s name—judiciously.
    Sometimes, when someone uses my name, I feel as though I’m being manipulated, or chided, or patronized. But in the right context, it can add a very nice note.
  5. Take note of evidence of their admirable qualities
    “That must have taken a lot of research.” “You showed a lot of initiative in starting that.” When someone mentions a fact from the past, my father-in-law often remarks, “You’ve got a good memory.” It’s surprisingly gratifying.
  6. Ask for advice.
    We all love to give advice, and feel smart when someone seeks our counsel.
  7. Take someone’s advice!
    If you read a book that someone recommends, use a software program that someone suggests, or try a restaurant that someone loves, that person will feel brilliant.