SIGNS THAT THE PATRIARCHY IS ALIVE AND WELL AT WEGMANS
I work in the kitchen at Wegmans, which is THE best grocery store on the East Coast. But in spite of being a boss company with two female VPs, evidence of the despised patriarchy is EVERYWHERE.
- •My white male coworkers seem to think its ok to touch me.This is the biggest issue. The contact in and of itself is non-threatening, but like, I just don't want to share my personal space with people at work. No, I don't want to hug you. I know you don't mean anything sexual by it, but I still don't want to hug you. Stop putting me in the position of being either "rude" or uncomfortable for maintaining my bubble.
- •Most team leaders and chefs are male.My team, for example; is 90% female, but my team leader is male. He came in from a different store to be our boss when we have an actual Superwoman working with us, and she was very capable of filling the position. What? Dang it, patriarchy. (Also, now that I think about it, ALL the team leaders are white, but that's for another list.)
- •Customers who call me "hon" or "sweetheart"I DONT KNOW YOU. I WEAR A NAMETAG. CALL ME BY MY NAME. ... AND DONT YOU DARE TELL ME TO SMILE
- •I feel like I'm being demanding when I place an order or tell the cook an item didn't tempThis might be more of a personal issue than a company one. But still, I feel like I risk offending someone if I speak up while DOING MY JOB. (Mental note: stop being quiet and deferential because my words are my best defense against this wretched patriarchy.)
- •Don't get me wrong. For a part time job, it's great. I like most of my coworkers and feel respected. But just like the rest of the world, Wegmans has a bit of work to do to create a just, safe workplace.