10 UNEXPECTEDLY FUN QUESTIONS TO ASK ON A FIRST DATE
by Lisa Lo Paro ~ First dates can be exciting and awesome, but they can also be nerve-wracking, awkward, and pretty flippin’ weird. If you’re anything like me, the conversation will invariably turn to boring work stories. Consider popping a few of these questions on your next first date! Read more here: http://bit.ly/1QjMxhk
- •What’s your most vivid childhood memory?Maybe it’s about being with their pet dog in the backyard or the smell of their grandmother’s house. Childhood memories are funny things: They reveal a lot about the way you think about the world, and the way you looked at it from a young age. It’s a great way to learn a little bit more about their background and spark a discussion about the way you both grew up.
- •Who in your family are you closest too?You want to know where someone came from, but it can be a delicate subject. (Maybe their relationship with one of their parents or siblings isn’t great.) This is a nice way to leave it open-ended, and let your date chat about their family in terms that are as specific or as general as they want. It shows interest without being intrusive.
- •Were you popular in high school?Oh, high school. As long as you’ve got a couple years to cushion you from it, it can be a time that’s rich with funny stories and little observations. The way that someone saw themselves in high school when they were figuring it all out can say a lot about who they are. Were they super into sports? Did they go to prom? Did they sneak out after curfew? Earn straight As? What do they wish they could have done differently, if anything? What were their friends like?
- •What’s something you’re bad at?This isn’t meant to prompt a confession of your date’s failures. The best way to approach it is as a light-hearted thing by offering an example of your own. Maybe: “I’m really bad at cooking. I managed to burn cereal one time. What about you, what do you wish you were better at?” Or, “True fact, I didn’t learn how to tie my shoes until I was in high school.” It’s a way of letting your guard down and laughing at yourself, a very attractive quality, and an invitation for your date to do the same.
- •What’s something you’ve been really proud of lately?Maybe it’s hitting a time goal on a run or learning how to make pesto or finally getting the hang of something at work. It opens up room to hear about what they value without making your date feel like they’re bragging. And you can share, too!
- •What’s the last book you read?If reading is something you’re into, this is a good way of seeing what tastes you share and what interests your date. And even if books aren’t your thing, you can bond over your thoughts on whether Gone Girl was better over a movie or a book.
- •What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?Bungee jumping? Kayaking down the Amazon? Eating that super-hot chili on the “Dare You” menu at the local diner? It’s a good way to take a peek into their ambitions and dreams.
- •What do you like about dating? What don’t you like?If you’re going out together, it’s fair to assume that you and your date are both in the dating game. It’s a weird one, and it helps to commiserate over it. Maybe they love that they get to try new restaurants and meet new people, but hate that it takes so long to get to know someone.
- •What makes you nervous?Clowns? Spiders? Public speaking? Spiders? This question will let your date show their vulnerable side, and admit to something they’re not entirely comfortable with, particularly if you chip in first to show solidarity.
- •What things would you save if your apartment were on fire?For me, it would be my photo albums and my childhood stuffed animal, but their question will tell you what they could not bear to lose. And what the select might surprise you. The goal of dates is to have a good time and figure out if you want to see more of this person. Hopefully some of these questions will help you on your way.