ALL THE WEIRD THINGS I DO BEFORE GOING ON A FIRST DATE
by Danielle Sepulveres ~ Here's a list of things that have seem to never changed throughout my dating history. Read the full story here: http://bit.ly/1NG6fPh
- •I change my clothes three or four (or five or six) timesEven if I’ve had an outfit in mind all week before this date, all of a sudden on the day of it doesn’t look right. The shirt isn’t hanging right. The jeans are too tight. A dress looks too dressy for where we are going. The shoes I wanted to wear look off. NOTHING IS WORKING!! It’s incredibly frustrating.
- •I consider cancelingMaybe I’m not ready. Maybe we won’t have chemistry. Maybe I’ll like him and he won’t like me. Maybe he’ll like me and I will want to run for the hills. Wouldn’t it be best for everyone if I just canceled the thing and stayed home to Netflix and chill solo?
- •I overplan and overanalyze everything that hasn’t even happened yetWhat if I don’t like the restaurant we go to? What if the food doesn’t agree with me? (I have a weak stomach). If he brings up college, I’ll tell the story about the time I got stuck outside in my towel during a fire drill, but not the one about splitting my leather pants. If things go well, will he kiss me at the end of the night? Do I have Tic Tacs? Should I go get more? What if the kiss isn’t any good? Should I clean my apartment in case he wants to come up? And on and on and on.
- •I FaceTime my friends for a pep talkSometimes in the midst of emptying out our entire closet, shouting expletives at a mirror and pacing, the best thing we can do is call a friend. They can be the voice of reason to calm us down. I will sometimes FaceTime so I can give a view of my outfit and get a thumbs up confirmation from my bestie. Most of all having a friend list all your positive attributes and remind you why you said yes to the person who asked you out can be just the thing you need before it’s time to head out.
- •I look through photos of my last relationshipThis is something that I do not recommend to anyone. It completely puts you in the wrong mindset for getting to know someone new. But occasionally I have made the mistake of thinking it might serve as a reminder that first dates can lead to something great. But it just ends up reminding me of an ex who is better left in the past. Whether we need to pace in circles, apply some extra deodorant, or call our friends a hundred times, the most important thing is not let fear take over.