FRIENDSHIP IS...

  1. A willingness to have the same conversation over and over again until you're blue in the face
  2. Knowing when you can put your foot down to say enough is enough.
    ie "I will listen to you talk about this problem/boy for a million years but I can't give you any advice I haven't already given you until you do something about it."
  3. Answering the second phone call if it comes immediately after the first.
    This is an unspoken rule between my best friends and I. Call once: okay, just want to chat or have a non-urgent question. Call twice immediately: something is wrong and no matter what you're doing, I need you to talk to me. Even if it's 5 am.
  4. Telling your friend that a boy/habit is hurting them when they can't see it themselves.
    @mia once said to me "you've been putting yourself through psychological torture but you can't see it because you're in too deep".
  5. Getting over fights quickly.
    If the fight is over the phone, it's best to see each other within 24 hours. You'll realize that a lot of what you said was in the heat of the moment and it's easier to forgive her/yourself when you have to look each other in the eyes.
  6. Being their champion when they can't do it for themselves.
    Pep talks are really important. If they forget that they're awesome, you gotta step up to the plate and remind them.
  7. Honesty.
    A few years ago, I was debating whether or not I should break up with my boyfriend at the time. I was out to eat with two guy friends and one kept saying "hmmm, I don't know....up to you!" And my other friend slammed his utensils down and just said "It's over. I'm sorry if that sucks to hear, but it is. End it." And that's when it finally clicked for me.
  8. Let them use your parents as their parents if they need to.
    Mrs. Serafino is calling the DMV for me on Monday to deal with them because I'm at my wits end. I've never felt more a part of a friend's family. (Or more like an incompetent adult but that's beside the point).
  9. Going to leather bars to watch drag queen reality tv cc: @patrickrogers
    Suggested by   @mia