Advice To My Younger Self
It's never too late to listen to your "inner child."
- •Just Say No.In high school, I never had a problem saying "no" to alcohol and substances, but I had trouble saying "no" to others. A lifelong "people pleaser," I've only recently understood the downside of being a "yes" girl.
- •Steer clear of sociopaths.I always thought sociopaths had to fit the description of criminals depicted on 48-Hours. I didn't realize that preying on one's empathy to "get" something and needing to triumph others were signs of this personality disorder.
- •Embracing grief will save you from suffering.I think we all do this; we try to change someone or a circumstance because it's hard to face what we can't have or what someone will never be. So often this is a defense against grief. Acknowledging heartbreak is the antidote to prolonged suffering.
- •Write it out.There's no greater clarity than the power of words. When in doubt, write it out.
- •Time does not heal all wounds.It's what we do and make of time that matters most.
- •It's never a good idea to wear socks with sandals.Wish someone would have told me that when I thought Birkenstocks looked great with white socks.