****IF**** you are capable. Some of these require levels of physical activity, etc., that not everyone may have. That does not make you a bad person!!!
  1. Ask everyone's pronouns, and then use the right ones -- even when they're not present
  2. Hold the door for anyone who's close enough, and anyone carrying large objects
  3. Assume that people only ask for the accommodations they truly need, and don't ask for explanations
  4. When someone expresses a vulnerability or stress, do not respond with a joke or sarcasm (no matter how well-intended)
  5. If some language or behavior makes even one person uncomfortable (and it's not the BS uncomfortability of a bigot), stop doing it without requiring a huge explanation/justification
  6. Don't assume what people with disabilities can or cannot do; just ask them
  7. If someone seems to be carrying too much, offer to carry something. If someone drops something, help them pick it up.
  8. Ask people (all people) what gendered terms they are and are not comfortable with, and act accordingly
  9. If someone wants to share something serious with you, try your best to be visibly engaged; attempt eye contact, don't look at your phone, etc.
  10. If the criticism is not constructive, consider why you're saying it. Consider not saying it.
  11. Do not touch people without their consent -- including hugs, pokes, and the like
  12. Tell people "there's no need to be sorry" or "you've done nothing wrong" instead of telling them "don't be sorry"
  13. Say "y'all" instead of "you guys." Say "they" instead of "he or she." Say "all genders" instead of "both genders."
  14. Try not to get mad at people for interrupting or speaking over others, unless it is clearly ill-intentioned or they are not willing to apologize and step back
  15. Compliment people. Express appreciation for the things they do.