Why It's Hard to Keep in Touch With Old Friends
- •Busy lives.I feel like I don't have much down time and guilty if I don't spend what I have with my kids.
- •Time zones.My college roommate lives in DC so we are 2 hours apart now and 3 hours in the summer. When I'm getting off work she is thinking about going to bed.
- •So much to say.It's hard when you haven't spoken to someone in a while and there is a lot to catch up on so you know it will be a huge time investment.
- •Not enough to say.After I gush about my darling munchkins for 10 minutes, I don't feel like I have a lot new to share. Job is the same. Husband's job is the same. House is the same. But I do always find something to talk about with really good friends.
- •I don't want to be a bother.Certain friends seem like they are always on the go and never have time to talk. At some point I give up because I'm worried they might be purposely avoiding me. 😔
- •I miss my friends.I don't have a lot of close friends. I have a ton of casual friends from different phases in my life but not that many who know me inside and out and can predict how I'm going to feel about something before we talk about it. The few I have are spread all over the country. I have one that phased me out for no apparent reason. I'm still pretty heartbroken about it.
- •Friends are important.I have a very full life and am happy with so many aspects of it, but I miss having close girlfriends. The need for girl time just can't be filled by kids or husband (and God forbid trying to get girl time with the kids or husband around.) I'm at a stage in life where friendship takes work. It's not like in school where proximity breeds intimacy. You actually have to go out of your way to spend time. And I just don't have the bandwidth.