By family therapist Dr. Jean Carveth
  1. Therapists see an equal amount of harm caused by unhappy "intact nuclear families".
  2. Damage to kids from divorce is caused by a parent who plays the divorce card
    Not by the divorce
  3. Playing the divorce card means that the parent cares more about revenge than in raising kids who want to be with her when they're adults
  4. Unhappy couples have two choices, not three
  5. Decide to stay together in an unharmonious marriage and be kind to each other or
  6. End the marriage. Not
  7. Stay together and torture each other.
  8. Children see everything.