BEST ADVICE I'VE EVER RECEIVED
Every once in a while someone says something that busts my world wide open. Here are a few of those times. Please tell me yours.
- •Just because you can imagine something happening with incredible specificity doesn't mean it will happen.My therapist told me this when I was in the throes of what was in retrospect a pinch of post partum depression. Maybe it's because I'm a writer and have a knack for imagining the absolute worst, but I find this advice comes in handy almost daily.
- •Don't resist pain. Surrender to it.This was said to me by a maternity nurse during childbirth and it seriously helped. Because it hurts to push a garden gnome out of your vagina. But since then, in non vaginal contexts, the concept of surrendering or accepting uncomfortable feelings has come up repeatedly during meditation and remembering not to resist or push back against discomfort (physical or emotional) has really changed my life.
- •You will never be the best in the world at anything and that's okay.My dad said this to me when I was a freshman in college and for some reason--maybe because I'm a crazy perfectionist--I found it incredibly liberating. Turns out he was totally right. I am not the best in the world at anything and that's okay.
- •How you feel about a particular piece of your work is not necessarily reflective of its value or how the world will receive it.So this wasn't advice that was given to me directly, but still. It's awesome advice. I'm pretty sure i first heard it during an episode of the Scriptnotes podcast (?) and it's an idea that has stuck with me. I trot it out on bad writing days. Or when I'm being overly self critical.
- •Tell the truth. Even when its hard. Especially when its hard.Suggested by @mkz
- •"There's no such thing as perfect. But there is such thing as finished."Best writing advice on how to stop procrastinating out of fear a piece wasn't 'perfect' and just turn it in.Suggested by @NancyMiller
- •Never shame yourself because of your feelings. It's how you feel.You can't change them. You must embrace them.Suggested by @sam
- •Sometimes it's ok to just say 'I'm OK'Advice from my 11th grade AP English teacher when I was crying in his classroom.Suggested by @oligear
- •Embrace confusionA college professor told me this my sophomore year and it was an epic revelation at the time (I guess most things are your sophomore year). Now it's second nature.Suggested by @johnnyartpants