INVALUABLE ADVICE MY MOTHER HAS GIVEN ME
My mother has a Romanian accent, so please read these with that accent in mind to get the full effect.
- •If you don't ask, you don't get.The key is to ask nicely.
- •If you don't respect yourself, nobody else will respect you.I was told this as I did the Walk of Shame into a hotel room where we were both living. It is a truth that you would think would be self-evident, but sometimes, sadly, it is not. I find that it holds up in all walks of life, by which I mean work life, love life, friend life and family life.
- •Don't think about how the what-ifs.This is generally a response to any concerns about finance or romance. When I hear it, I picture that scene in Moonstruck when Cher slaps Nicholas Cage and says, "Snap out of it!"
- •Happiness is not a life goal.When she said this to me, I was 12, and I thought she meant that trying to be happy was pointless. Now I understand: happiness is a state you maintain. It's a practice. It shifts and changes and evolves as we shift and change and evolve. It's not like summiting Everest: You don't get there and then just hang out. It's achievable but not sustainable. After a lot of trial and error, you discover what makes you happy. And then you work to keep it.