THIS YEAR FUCKING SUCKED BUT I LEARNED SOME SHIT, I GUESS

  1. People are uncomfortable with grief
    People straight up have no idea how to deal with a grieving person. And if you try to talk about it with people, most of them have nothing helpful to say at all. Some of them even get mad when you're not just over it already. Only the people who have dealt with grief before really get it.
  2. You can and should let them see you cry
    Pretending things are fine when they are not fine is an effective way to stop people from asking how you are and whether you need help. You will somehow convince yourself, then, that everyone hates you and doesn't care that you're sad. It's because they don't know you're sad! Stop acting like everything's fine if it's not, because people aren't mind readers and definitely have no idea how much pain you're in if you don't let them in.
  3. People are complex and shouldn't be ashamed that they don't fit into neat little boxes
    This is sort of related to the above point, but it has more to do with being okay with who you are as a person and not hiding parts of you out of shame.for example, I love indie music. I also love pop music. Somehow that is really difficult for a lot of people to grasp. Well guess what, world! I like a lot of things! I'm not ashamed! Don't make me feel bad for liking things you wouldn't expect me to like! Jerks!