REASONS WE ARE ADDICTED TO THE PAST
@brookielyons' list of Tim Ferriss' rules for greater output was invaluable, particularly the bullet-point about regret as past tense decision-making. I wanted to explore why we spend so much time on past tense decision-making in the first place. Open to thoughts!
- •No matter how painful it was, at least it is known, and thereby less frightening than what lies ahead.
- •If we don't make meaning of what happened, we face nothingness.
- •We believe we can learn from it.
- •If we don't contextualize and recontextualize in order to resolve something that may potentially be irresolvable, we face guilt/regret/shame/confusion.
- •We want reinforcement to continue thinking of ourselves in certain fear- and shame-based ways, even though doing so generally sucks balls.
- •That edifice of a personal cosmology you've constructed of your memories provides reinforcement for your current worldview, beyond your thoughts about yourself.
- •It provides the escape of a good story, like any form of emotional porn.
- •It offers the promise that there will be something better to come.