How I Deal
We all have our ways. These are some of mine.
- •Keep in mind I live alone and I'm an introvertI don't like to spend all my time around people and I tend to try and work through things alone because it's just what I've always done. I honestly think I got a psychology degree more to help myself than to help anyone else.
- •These obviously don't take the place of professional helpGet help if you need it and don't be ashamed. We have the social sciences so we can understand ourselves and each other. Mental health is part of healthcare. It's no different than any other medical need. If you aren't well and can't cope alone then other people can help you. There's no shame in therapy, meds, or checking in to a facility for 24/7 care.
- •I constantly remind myself that depression liesThis is something Wil Wheaton, yep Wesley Crusher, always says. He's dealt with depression and speaks from experience. I've had it on and off since I was a kid too. This was especially comforting last year when I was really depressed and had no motivation for life at all. Depression does lie and it tricks you into thinking nothing will ever get better. It's a dirty fucking liar! Don't believe it!
- •My catsI don't tend to turn to people for comfort. With pets you aren't alone and you have unconditional love and acceptance when you don't want to be around people. You can just go through whatever you need to and they'll be there for you. They can't talk back or intervene to get you help, but their love and comfort is always there. I don't know what I would have done without mine last year.
- •Music - either listen to it or play itI can't live without it. It's what I always turn to. It's always there for you. There's music for every emotion. Sometimes I'll put on my playlist of slow/sad songs and get on my exercise bike. I know it seems like sad music and exercise don't go together, but it works for some reason. I've even cried while doing it. It's a physical and emotional release at the same time.
- •Social media helps you connect with people who might understand or just have the comfort of interaction on your own termsLast year when I was feeling awful and didn't want to go out and be around people but wanted to feel like I was, I would turn on Periscope and watch a certain person. I knew her from Twitter and her sort of famous past. She made it a community on there. I could turn it on and just listen and watch while she talked and went about daily life. She did scopes where we could all confess our problems and everyone would show support. We even did a help the homeless project through the app as a group.
- •When I need a laugh I watch British comedyOccasionally I watch other stuff, but there's something about British humor than makes me feel better. It feels so good to have a laugh when you haven't had one for a while. I know this is cheesy, but for me it helps.
- •Remember that...Depression is more than just feeling sad. It's also feeling frustrated, angry, tired, anxious, scared, numb, just generally unmotivated for life, and much more. Sometimes you do feel happy and motivated for a while. There are different kinds of depression and it may come and go, or you may only experience it one time. It's all ok and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
- •Get help if you need it, wherever and whenever you need itThere shouldn't be stigma around mental illness, but there is. It's not always easy to get help and find a safe place. A lot of people don't understand what it's about. If you can find a safe person to talk to or a safe place to be while you're going through things, then it will help a lot.
- •Don't beat yourself upYou may not be able to do much and can only do the bare-minimum sometimes. That's ok. Getting through the day is still an accomplishment. Sometimes you can do more or you'll start feeling better and more motivated. It's all ok. If you can come out of it and start feeling motivated for life again, embrace it. You can push yourself, but never be cruel to yourself or call it a failure if you just need to get by for a while.
- •I know this list is kind of a mess, but this year I've started feeling better and motivated for life again.Last year, 2015, was basically work and being home alone. I didn't see many people and I didn't take care of my house or my physical health very much. I remember reading that depression and mess go together. Boy do they ever for me. I'm finally coming out of that and it's great!
- •Social media helped me a lotI mean a lot. It's a good place for an introvert anyway, but it can be great when you're having a hard time and need to find people who will understand and not judge.
- •Hopefully if you're struggling with something in your life you can get help somehow and come through it
- •There seems to be a lot of people on here willing to listen and show support
- •You're not alone and people do care! ❤️