1. The story that most resonated with me is Coates' story of Mabel Jones
    The mother of Prince Jones, a Black man murdered by the police (or as Coates would put it, the whole system).
  2. More than anything the book conveyed the peril of Black parenthood to me in ways I've never understood before
  3. Coates writes, "Black people love their children with a kind of obsession. You are all we have, and you come to us endangered."
  4. I called my mom and read the quote to her
    She replied, "Yea..."
  5. I continued to talk about the profundity of the book and my mother was super underwhelmed by my words
  6. She said it's simple - "We'd rather hurt you than let the world do it"
  7. And in that moment I was not just respectful and grateful to my mother (I've always been), but I was understanding
  8. I understood the whoopings for talking back
  9. I understood the yelling and screaming at me when I lied about being somewhere
  10. And I understood the looks of exhaustion and hopelessness when I cry to her about racism at school or all of the Black people who keep dying at the hands of the state
  11. Toni Morrison speaks to this too, in most of her works
    ...what it means to parent a Black body, a body inherently in danger.
  12. And lastly it made me think of @shanaz 's list I'M READY
    And how little time Black children have to be innocent. How little time Black children have before the fear...
  13. "It is the raft of second chances for them, and twenty-three-hour days for us."
    Coates writes...
  14. But now I know that I am here, that we are here, only because of the hard and fearful love of our parents. And I am grateful.